Thanks to everyone for giving me a week off blogging. I needed some time to get my life in order before focusing again on things to come.
For those of you who were curious, due to some unexpected management restructuring, I lost my job last week. It was a very rough few days as I hit full-out panic mode and wondered how I was going to get through the next few months without a source of income. There was a lot of distraught crying involved, worst-case scenario paranoia, and some serious lows in personal self-esteem, all of which I imagine are pretty normal for people who have lost something so central to their lives.
But after the panic subsided, I had a chance to look at the silver lining, and thanks to some severance and wise advice in the past from Suze Orman, I've ultimately decided that things aren't as bad as they could be. In fact, I have begun to think of my newly acquired free time as an opportunity to reassess some life decisions and decide what I want to do with my life.
Isn't that the trickiest question there is? My generation in particular, as we reach this quarter-life-crisis time in our lives, can find it particularly difficult. Our parents generation, after all, had a much different life plan than we do. They finished school, often got married young (ish), started a family, started a career, and created life therein. I know so many older adults who have been in the same career path for 30-40-50 years, watching their family grow up while moving steadily toward retirement. Stability. A house, a family, a steady paycheck.
It's a daunting act to follow. Because things just aren't like that anymore. It seems people job-hop much more frequently these days - career paths change, job markets change, people change.
In grade school we were asked:
what do you want to be when you grow up?
In high school we were asked,
what do you want to major in?
In college we were asked,
what career path do you want to pursue?
But what if there isn't just one answer? What if the ten year old kid who says,
I want to be an astronaut, and a fireman, and a doctor can be all of those things? What if the high schooler who likes her art classes as much as algebra doesn't have to choose between them? What if the college student who majors in architectural design suddenly decides he wants to pursue a job in business management?
Why does our society push us so hard to pick one career path? Suddenly that ten year old kid with four dreams is forced to abandon three of them. Until, perhaps, he loses his job. Or life takes a unexpected turn. Or he decides he's not content with spending 40 years at the same company.
I have never really known what I want to do with my life. Or perhaps I've just had too many things I've wanted to do, and society makes me choose between them. But I don't want to be categorized. I don't like the question, what do you do for a living?
Rather, what don't I do? I didn't go to school to be a doctor, or an engineer, or even a designer. I didn't pick one predetermined path. I enjoy being a jack of all trades, master of none, even if it is frustrating sometimes.