And then a week later we traveled to the east coast and visited family in what Tanner likes to call our "Engagement Tour 2013." It basically involved saying hello to five hundred people in ten days. Seriously.
Ok, not seriously, but it was pretty close. Between my family and friends in North Carolina and his family and friends in Georgia, we had a lot of people to see. And now we suddenly had a lot of people to break the big news to. I got very accustomed to holding out my left hand and saying, "ta-daaaaah!"I also got very accustomed to the question, "when is the wedding???"
A word of wisdom for those of you who have yet to get engaged: I recommend picking a date and a venue before announcing your engagement. It makes for much better conversation than just answering, "er.... uh.... we're not sure yet...." every time someone wants to know the exact details of the wedding that you just discovered was happening. I mean jeez, people. I'm pretty awesome, but even I can't throw a wedding together in five days! (That would be awesome, though, right? I could go into business! Wonder Woman Weddings! (c))
Yes, those are Christmas decorations. Yes, this picture was taken in February. No judging.
There were many "hello, how do you dos!" over the next few days, and many wedding stories swapped between friends. My favorite wedding story was from married couple that Tanner and I are good friends with. They had gotten married at the top of a mountain resort, and after the "I dos!" they snowboarded to the bottom of the run, wedding dress/ tux and all! They asked if we had planned anything yet for our wedding, to which we replied, "er.... uh.... we're not sure yet..." and then asked them how they managed it.
Maria said, "overall, it was pretty easy. I did most of it, but gave Nick one task."
"Nick was in charge of the cake. So we had pie."
I told them that Tanner was very interested in helping with the planning, but his skills left much to be desired. So far he answered all of my questions with either "Harry Potter themed wedding" or "Georgia red."
"We can't have Georgia red as our wedding colors," I kept telling him.
"Because what would it match?!"
"Everything else that's Georgia red!" Tanner said. "Obviously!"
(The colors will be green and brown, by the way. Let's not tell Tanner just yet.)
Then one day my mom and sister decided they wanted to take me wedding dress shopping. If there's one thing I'm sure of in this world, it's that wedding dress shopping is an introvert's own personal Hell. One attendant to wait on you in a small dressing room while you're wearing nothing but corset-like underwear and she helps you button up a 25 pound dress that you then must parade around on a spotlit stage? NO THANK YOU.
It didn't help that every time I came out on "stage" without a veil my mom would yell, "let's jack her up!!" which clearly means she's been watching too much Say Yes to the Dress.
But believe it or not, my inner diva did manage to make an appearance, and I started to enjoy myself. Every girl likes playing dress up, right? I just don't remember dress-up costing $1500... and who knew wedding dresses were so heavy? I mean, how are you supposed to dance in those things, really?
In between wedding dress shopping and eating out - no, really, we ate out at every meal... isn't that what you do when you visit home? Make plans for dinner? I was thinking of that Jim Gaffigan joke the entire time:
That's what vacation is - us eating someplace we haven't been. "Well, why don't we go eat something? Then we'll go get something to eat. Then we'll see that thing we were supposed to see... they probably have a snack bar, right? After that, we should probably get something to eat, though."I never could eat my leftovers. It was kind of depressing if I had a good meal, because I knew I'd never get the chance to eat the rest of it. On the upside, my mom got a week's worth of great lunches out of it. On the downside, I think I gained five pounds in a week.
But anyway, in between wedding dress shopping and eating out, we visited favorite places in town and I found myself gravitating toward funky antique shops and thrift stores, subconsciously searching for vases and clever bits and pieces that I could turn into awesome DIY wedding decor. CRAFTIEST WEDDING EVER.
It's also slightly addicting to spend a million hours on Pinterest finding awesome wedding ideas. (Sigh) What's a girl to do?
After many delightful days surrounded by family and friends, we made the trek back to Oregon and started sharing the news in our small circle of friends out West, and to you, dear readers. And since I know you all have one burning question on your minds: "when is the wedding?!"
I can now say quite definitively: "er.... uh... we're not sure yet..."